Apparently I don’t have the mods account it’s just verified on the app. Seems like mods on certain comms just make up whatever placeholder reasoning when you don’t break the rules. I thought you had to blame the victim to victim blame and my post didn’t blame anyone for anything.

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    12 days ago

    Apparently I don’t have the mods account it’s just verified on the app

    I’m the mod. If you want to see which mods do what, https://phtn.app/ shows it all iirc.

    This was the context you left out: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/38049576

    A post on [email protected] of you telling someone they should accept their abusive parents. Seriously? And you think comparing yourself to their father is a good thing?

    Seems like mods on certain comms just make up whatever placeholder reasoning when you don’t break the rules. I thought you had to blame the victim to victim blame and my post didn’t blame anyone for anything.

    Really? You think you can go to a mental health community and tell victims to just accept their abusers? Read the room, man. I just inherited the community, too, so i’m not done actually revamping the rules.

    I, and anybody else who had abusive parents would look at this and flat out say YDI.

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      12 days ago

      I said accept that their father is a negative person, not accept their abuser as you put it. It’s actually good advice are they supposed to think constantly about their father is verbally abusive, not repress it?

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      Really? You think you can go to a mental health community and tell victims to just accept their abusers?

      That may be inappropriate and I may disagree with him but it is not a victim blaming. He may have broken other rules (I am not familiar with that particular community) but not this one.

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    11 days ago

    Looking at your responses in the most favorable way you are using the word accept in a different way than what people typically mean when they say “accept your family”. Comment should still be removed, though.

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      Yeah I can’t blame people for not understanding me and thinking a completely different thing based on one word I used

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    YDI, telling someone to accept their abusive parents on a mental health community absolutely is victim blaming. Seriously, they probably should’ve banned you for that one it’s just extremely shitty and unhelpful, possibly even dangerous.