• starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works
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    Imo that’s just people in general, most have a lot of issues they want to talk through and don’t have people to talk with. After seeing about 9000 online profiles with “pamper me” or “over 6 ft or don’t message” I get the feeling though :>

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      Try being a single dad on the dating scene. It’s like a yellow star on my shoulder everywhere my profile goes. For fucks sake, even had single mom’s tell me they don’t date single dads. Legit had a woman tell me I’m cute, but having a kid is a dealbreaker due to her not wanting “baggage.” Says the person resorting to online dating.

      Thankfully, I found someone and been out of the game for the past 5ish years or so. I can only imagine how much more superficial it all is now.

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        Brutal, yeah I usually skip over people who have those weird qualifiers just out of principle, like yeah maybe this is a negative to you but you’re gonna write off a whole person for that? There are so many amazing people that they’ll never meet just because of some random “dealbreaker.”

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        "Of course I like children omg, why would you say that… I even donate to kids in Africa! It’s just I don’t like baggages in MY relationship, OMG is that too much to ask? You are not even that cute. " 🫂

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      It is a bit everyone yes, I just never had to convince a lad to have a drink with me. Maybe it comes out differently for men, don’t know and don’t care.

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        Yeah I think it’s rather women have the same problem dating men, but are much less superficial with other girls