I completely agree, while rape is technically what happens in those situations, the word seems to hold more weight than the action (in those specific situations where it’s more a result of clumsy socialization and lack of communication).
Like, by the very semantic technical definition, I’ve been raped, but since there was no power dynamic and since there was no malicious intent, I do not call it that because it doesn’t feel accurate. I am not traumatized.
I’d say the best way to move forward is to socialize children with the understanding of what consent is, and raising them with the autonomy we expect for ourselves. Basically if we want children to grow up with empathy and respecting the autonomy of others, we need to treat them with empathy and respect their autonomy.
Basically how can we expect people to follow rules like “get consent before doing anything” if we don’t have a consensus on what “consent” is?
I completely agree, while rape is technically what happens in those situations, the word seems to hold more weight than the action (in those specific situations where it’s more a result of clumsy socialization and lack of communication).
Like, by the very semantic technical definition, I’ve been raped, but since there was no power dynamic and since there was no malicious intent, I do not call it that because it doesn’t feel accurate. I am not traumatized.
I’d say the best way to move forward is to socialize children with the understanding of what consent is, and raising them with the autonomy we expect for ourselves. Basically if we want children to grow up with empathy and respecting the autonomy of others, we need to treat them with empathy and respect their autonomy.
Basically how can we expect people to follow rules like “get consent before doing anything” if we don’t have a consensus on what “consent” is?