At least in the US, we call the ones in jars “wieners” and not “hot dogs” lol

I know how you feel as I experienced some similarities with up bringing. Do you know of the disorganized attachment type or mother wounds? Emotional neglect during your first few years of life, even if basic needs are being met, can lead to what you describe. I’ve made progress myself, as has my wife, but it is difficult.

Because you are supposed to find 11 friends that can also stuff 7 sausages in their buttholes. Then you buy 7 packs of sausage and divide them equally among the 12 of you, with no waste.